The Indian touch to western outfits

As Indians we definetly have a lot of Indian jewelry lying around the house, which we use on rare ocassions like weddings and Indian festivals. But what if we started pairing it with our Western outfits? Not only will it give you a funky look, but also your accessories will be utilised to the maximum. So, let me show you how to nail this look.

  1. Jhumkas

Everyone knows that Jhumkas truely accentuate the look of Indian attires and goes extremely well with kurtis and pyjamas, but they also look fabulous with western wear.

 

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2. Bindis

Bindis, of all sizes and colours, can instantly brighten up your neutral outfit. That is why, I choose to wear a big, bright, red-coloured bindi with my black jumpsuit.

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3. Bangles 

Taking a cue from the Bengali women who wear huge red and white bangles with their western clothes after marriage, I decided to go for this look.

 

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4. Payal(Indian Anklet) 

A lot of young Indian women already do this, but this is my version of it.

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5. Mangtika(An ornament for the forehead)

This intricate piece of jewerly really enhanced the look of my outfit.

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It’s that simple to create this look, but it does require some guts. So, get your bold on and try it out.

 

 

 

My experience of watching Vagina Monologues.

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Vaginas. They fascinate everyone and everyone seems to have an opinion about vaginas and even women seem to talk about other women’s vaginas and what they should do with them. So when an author decided to ask women the experiences that they have because they have a vagina and perform it as a play, it was pure genius.

I watched the Indian adaptation of the play Vagina Monologues that I have wanted to watch since a long time, at Laughter Canvas Club in Lower Parel on Saturday, 26th May, 2018 and I am so glad, I did! I was awed by the actors who kept switching roles and play each part to perfection. The women start with their experiences and the funny things that they have experienced during sex. They play characters who belong to various regional cultures with ease and it makes it so relatable to us Indian audiences. The play also talks about sensitive and hard-hitting issues in the form of stories that will make you cry and force you to think about them.

The lighting was perfect and hit each other at the right time and also went off at the right time. They kept it interactive by asking the audience to respond at certain parts, keeping the audience hooked and involved. The only complaint that I have is that I felt it got over too soon! Wished it was longer.

If you also want to have a great one and a half hour, you can book your tickets on BooKMyShow. It will be performed again on  the 9th, 10th and 23rd and 24th of June.

Wine, Cheese, and the heat!

 

I am in a crowded train, where I am balancing the weight of my body on one of my foot, listening to abuses and fights of ladies, and trying to eat snacks, that my friends carried, without falling. So, let me tell you how I landed in this situation. A group of friends and I decided to go to Sula Vineyards in Nashik. We wanted to take the trip in the cheapest way possible and it was a last moment plan. So, we got our general class tickets of Tapovan Express to Nashik from Borivali and caught the train at around 6.30. We reached Nashik at approximately 10.30, ate breakfast at the first restaurant that we could find and proceeded to take a local cab that charged us 1,400 for dropping us to Sula and then waiting for us for four hours and dropping us back to Nashik station. As soon as you get out of the station, there are an array of vehicles that are willing to take you wherever you want.

 

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We were excited as we entered the place and walked to the huge lane with welcoming signs. The vineyards on the left side, quirky decor, music playing in the background make for a lively environment and even though it was humid and hot, we were full of energy and were excited. We went to the gift shop from where one can buy their tickets for the wine tour. We were shown the machines, where the grapes are crushed. Then, we were taken in the tank hall, where the wine is stored in a huge tank, and we were explained the process of making wine. The wine barrels were the next thing that we saw. Then, came the much awaited wine-tasting session, which everyone thoroughly enjoyed. We were given four of the finest Sula wines and we learned how to drink wine with style and elegance.

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After all the knowledge that our minds that grasped, we were hungry and headed to Soma, the beautiful and cute restaurant at Sula. We had a delicious pasta and pizza. Later, we clicked a million pictures and went to another restaurant in Sula that has a beautiful view of the wineries and serves only snacks and wine. We had a fun conversation over wine and felt like very sophisticated and poised ladies.

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That was the end of our beautiful trip. Hoping this makes you want to go there as well.

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Ciao! Till my next trip.

Why you feel dead all the time?

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Feeling sleepy after you just wake up? After you eat? While you are commuting? While work? Basically all throughout the day? Many us have more than enough to eat and considering that the body takes energy from food shouldn’t we be more active and energetic?

I attended a workshop conducted by Ojas lifestyle and learned that we do not need the huge amounts of food we eat. We eat a lot of food because we find it tasty and our mind seeks pleasure. Our bodies get most of the energy from sleep. And we need to eat only for the nutrition, that is the minerals and victims and those we get from plants and fruits. Our body needs five elements from nature. Today most of us are feeding our bodies excess earth element through food. But one of the important elements is space and there needs to be space in our body and that can happen only when our tummies are not overloaded with food. The speakers also mentioned how an alive seed only grows, but when you cook food, the food is killed, so they recommend that we eat uncooked vegetables. There are a variety of recipes available online and there are a lot of ways you can make raw food tasty.  Your organs have to work extra when you eat extra and that makes you sleepy. That‘s why traditionally farmers would sleep after having food. Also, their lifestyle that had a lot of physical activity supported the cooked food that they had, but in today’s modern world there are some changes that need to happen. 

Many researchers recommend the raw diet. However, there are some precautions that you have to take while following this diet. Make sure you have green juice in the morning, which can be made from any green leafy vegetables, lemon juice, and ginger. The fibers of the juice have to be removed through a muslin cloth as it will be easy to digest the first thing in the morning and you will absorb the direct minerals and vitamins. Then after an hour you can have fruits and vegetables. For lunch, sprouts and vegetables will do. You can have carbohydrates at night, but eat more of the vegetable. It should be in the ratio of 20:80. You can have juices throughout the day. 

I just tried the diet for two days, and I am feeling so energized and light. I do not feel drowsy like I did most of the times before.

 

Mothers and Daughters

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Mother’s Day is around the corner and as I was searching for a gift that I could buy for my mother, I was thinking of the things that my mother has done for me over the years. She always ensured that I ate well, reached home safely and tried her best to motivate me to learn new things. Flashbacks of the fights that we had and keep having come to my mind and I remember how she never hesitated to correct me, even though she knew I would hate her for it. I feel blessed to have a mother who is so caring, loving, and supportive and I thank the almighty from the bottom of my heart for this.

There are times when my mother says illogical things and I want to bang my head against the wall because I cannot understand how people can have such ideas. When I was younger , she would stop me from going somewhere and I would get some angry and feel that she is not allowing me to grow and she is the biggest pain in my life. Sometimes she refuses to speak to me for days and I refuse to speak to her as well. If this happens with you and your mothers as well then I urge you to let the anger dissolve after some time. Even though your mother may have said hurtful things, the truth is that there could be no one in the world that loves you more than your mother and maybe she needs to learn how to better communicate her feelings and let go of her negativity, but like one of my best friends told me that our parents have been through tough situations and they do not want their children to go through the same, so the things that they say may feel negative, but they are just trying to protect you.

There are many people who feel that their mothers did not really love them, did not give them time, or always hurt them when they were kids. Some of them have to analyze whether it was true because sometimes we compared our mother’s to our friends mothers and wanted them to give us the time that some parents could afford to give their children when they were young. If you feel that they hurt you by some of their actions, delve into them and decide to forgive them. No one is perfect. Everyone is learning and your mother is growing with you. That was the only way she could behave then, so it is high time, you get over your childhood bruises and stop seeing your mother as the same women who hurt you ten years ago over a small issue.

There are some people; however, who genuinely have evil and rejecting mothers and who put them down. I pray that you all have strength and not brood over what you have done wrong. To you, all I can say is that forgive them, but do not maintain a relationship with them. There’s no need to keep in touch with such people, even if they are your parent.

Those of you who’s mother has passed away or who never had a mother, you can consider any lady who is kind to you, for example your friend’s mother to be your mother, after all relations are not only through blood.

Gift recommendations for my mom are welcome.

Living By Yourself: An experience I would encourage everyone to have.

I decided to move to a paying guest house for sometime so that I would get the experience of staying alone, save time, and become independent. Although it was a not a very pleasant experience, it did teach me a lot, which is why I would encourage everyone in their twenties to move out of their parents house and stay by themselves even if its for just a few months. While this is very common in the west, it is not very common in India and our parents will probably throw a fit, but explaining to them why it is important for your growth is important and I am sure if you make up your mind, they will be happy to let you grow.

Here are some things that I learnt from staying alone.

  1. Staying and dealing with people who you have never met before and who are very different from you. 

This is probably the toughest part and I was blessed with roommates who had brains that were the size of a pea. You will be very disappointed when your idea of  perfect roommates, like Rachel and Monica or Joey and Chandler from Friends, who you can chill with and who support you are shattered. People are different and most of the time your timings, schedule, way of thinking, hygiene habits do not match and that creates a lot of problems. People who you live with may create issues about you getting your friends over, have a very narrow perspective to life, like the girl that I lived with had. To quote her “people who drink alcohol and smoke up are not from good families and my mother already told me not to stay with a catholic girl”. But then you learn that people have different ways of thinking and you are no one to judge them. You let go and thank heavens that you are blessed enough not to have narrow minds like them.

2.  Handling Finances 

There is a lot of things that you have to take care of all by yourself now. Rent, light bills, gas bills, grocery, etc, etc and while this may seen overwhelming at first and you may question yourself as to why you moved out in the first place, but when you finally manage to do it all, you will be proud of yourself.

3. Feeling Grateful 

You will realize that your parents take care of many things for you and that you take most of the things for granted. You will be thankful that they worked hard to provide for you and gave you the best of whatever they could.

4. Learning

When we live at home, everything is done for us, so we do not bother learning even the most basic things. I learned to cook when I moved out and I am really happy about it because I finally learned this important survival skill. You also learn to keep your things safely, not spend a lot of time in the bathroom, and stand up for yourself.

Many of us youngsters think that it is impossible to do other things like cook, clean, and exercise with our job, but when you shift you can stay at a place near your house, save a lot of time and work on being a multi-tasker and having a balanced life. Wishing you all the luck, if you do decide to take the big step, I am sure you will slay.

5 spiritual books to change your life!

  1. The Way Of The Wizard – Deepak Chopra 

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This book that is written in the form of a dialogue between Arthur, the student, and Merlin, a wise man, really opens up the mind and helps you understand heavy spiritual concepts, like there is no good or bad, in very simple words and with examples.

2. The Power Of Now- Ekhart Tolle 

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Ekhart Tolle’s book has a heavy opening and can be difficult to understand at first, but the book has some beautiful concepts like Pain body, which helps us understand that every one has been through suffering and when their pain body is active they react in a negative way. Acceptance and Surrender is also one of the important lessons of this book.

3. You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay 

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This book helps us understand the deep connection between the mind and body and how the limiting beliefs, negativity and anger that we hold can be responsible for the problems that we face.

4.  Dying To Be Me – Anita Moorchandani 

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This book explains with a personal story the importance of self-love, living life without guilt and fear, and knowing that you have to relax in the now and things will be done for you.

5. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck – Mark Manson 

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There are so many things I learned from this book, but most importantly I learned that I am an entitled prick and you also most probably are one, so I highly recommend reading this book. I personally did not like the opening of the book, so if you also don’t like the opening like me, read a few pages and I am sure you are going to love it.

If you understand what is written in these books, I am sure you will automatically take steps toward changing your habits and dissolving the ego, a little by little, everyday. Sometimes it may require conscious effort on your part, and it may be difficult in the beginning, but you will thank yourself later.

Happy Reading and transforming!

 

 

Haven’t made any New Years Resolutions? It’s not late yet!

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Some people hate the idea of resolutions as they believe that change can happen anytime and we should not force ourselves into doing something because it is expected of us to want to be better. And some people feel that they are not going to be successful anyway, so why try. Well, I used to be of the same school of thought before, but now I feel changes in the right direction, no matter how small they are, make you appreciate the effort you put into breaking your bad habit and make you feel proud of yourself, and I for one could do with a self-esteem boost! So, here are some things that I will try to change in my life.

  • Brush every night! (Yes, I still have not learned to do that, even though my mom has been telling me to do that since I was a child!)
  • Drink lemon water with honey every morning!( because I want a slim belly)
  • Do at least 100 skips a day. (Because, my body has been aching with no physical activity and it needs some movement and since I am lazy and this is the easiest, it is doable!)
  • To exercise, I need to wake up early so I will wake up by 7.45( because before that seems, unrealistic)
  • Travel as much as possible this year. (Whenever and wherever I get the chance to go!)

This is all for now. There are so many things that I want to do like bathe in the sun every morning for some Vitamin D and learn a new hobby, but for now, this is all. We all have an intense pull of inertia that is going to stop us from achieving this, so we need a lot of willpower and ability to say no to this monster called laziness that always makes us give up on our goals and make us feel bad about ourselves. So all you need to do now is analyze which areas in your life you need to work on and slowly and steadily work toward them.

How to Survive when you are having a bad day or days!

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I reached office in a good mood yesterday. After about half an hour of uninterrupted work, my work laptop switched off and refused to turn on. The spare one also had a battery issue and even my very smart move of pressing the enter key over and over again to get it to started had no effect on it.  I was irritated and decided I needed  to eat junk so I reached out for my bag so that I could find my purse to pay for my unhealthy choices. After frantic searching (that included removing all the contents of my bag and tossing my bag upside down) when I didn’t find it I wanted to scream! My drivers license and credit card was in it. I immediately called HDFC bank and the very kind customer service executive blocked my card and ensured me that there was no transaction made, although he did piss me off in the end when he told me about how I should definitely take their debit card as well and try keeping it safe! Okay, he didnt say and try keeping it safe, I just couldn’t resist that joke. Now that the credit card was sorted I wondered what to do about the driver’s license. I learned that I would have to file a FIR and submit it at the RTO. The trip that I would have to make to the police station irritated me ever further and I told my colleague to shut up when he told me to calm down. I then went and worked on an absent colleagues computer. Thoughts of how stupid I am and how could I let this happen and the seemingly  unneccessary work that has been added swept through my mind all day. I didnt feel like having lunch, but one of my colleagues had brought extra lunch and made me eat it. It was delicious and thank god she made me eat, I was starving. It then hit on me, it’s not such a huge deal. Our mind tends to magnify small things and make it seem like a big issue! In all my worrying, I failed to notice how all my colleagues helped me with some useful information on how I could solve the situation, spoke kind words and the best part was that lunch just appeared for me! and I couldnt say no of course, She brought chole puri. It made me realise that there is always something good in every situation. It taught me that I need to be more alert! So even on days when you feel like nothing is going in your favour, firstly be patient with yourself if you have negative emotions. It is only natural. Feel it fully and embrace it. Secondly wait for the lesson that has to be learned to reveal itself and thirdly appreciate the kindness and the small good things that happen on such days. They help one cope. 

I went to the police station today, spoke broken marathi and got the required document that I have to submit at the RTO. I am hoping that the thief will send my drivers license by post so I thought I wait for a few days and if I still dont get it, only then I will submit it at the RTO. You pray for me as well!

Let the bad days make you stronger and wiser. Ciao.

4 chic flicks that men should watch!

Whether man or women, we all have our flaws and times when our life seems like such a mess, we start doubting ourselves. These 4 movies will give you a good laugh and will make you believe in yourself no matter what.

 

Confessions Of A Shopaholic 

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Rebecca Bloomwood will teach you that no matter how hard the situation, you can always get out of it. There is fun in chaos after all!  You just have to do what makes you happy and chase your dreams and the rest will fall into place(and if it doesn’t, shopping will always make you feel better!) This movie also shows how the support of loved ones can motivate us and have a tremendous impact on our growth, so take note and do anything for your best friend, even if that involves wearing an ugly bridesmaid’s dress( guys you could also show your brotherhood in similar ways rather than being all macho and not expressing your love for your guy best friends)

The Devil Wears Prada 

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When you have just got out of college  work in a field that is completely different from what you have you’re degree in , you feel like out-of-place, you have no idea about how some things are done and asking your colleagues seems like a nightmare because you get a vibe from each one of them that screams, I don’t  like you. But if you persevere and use the criticism in a positive way to get better, there is nothing that will stop you from success. Trying to do tasks that most people would  consider impossible is a sign of a winner!

Legally Blonde 

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These movie is a confidence booster like no other. It teaches us to believe in ourselves when nobody else does. The fact that the beautiful bond of friendship can be formed at the most unlikely places is shown  through Elle’s and Paulette friendship. It showed us that with love, compassion and belief in oneself one can do anything, including getting into harvard, solving a hard-hitting murder case as a student and winning over the person who once hated you.

Clueless

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Those teenage years when we are just beginning to discover ourselves. There are some things that we are good at and other things that we absolutely suck at and we beat ourselves down because of those things, don’t we? When we want to”fit in” and what our friends think about us matters so much to us, we are stressed that our friends will judge us and think we are losers if we have not done the “adult things” that they have already done. We realize we are trying to sort out other people’s life when we have no clue what we are doing and suddenly in all that confusion, we see a ray of hope and before we know it things start falling in place even without us trying.

So go grab some popcorn guys and watch these movies with your friends.  And the boys, you can thank me later, because you are bound to enjoy it!