Wine, Cheese, and the heat!

 

I am in a crowded train, where I am balancing the weight of my body on one of my foot, listening to abuses and fights of ladies, and trying to eat snacks, that my friends carried, without falling. So, let me tell you how I landed in this situation. A group of friends and I decided to go to Sula Vineyards in Nashik. We wanted to take the trip in the cheapest way possible and it was a last moment plan. So, we got our general class tickets of Tapovan Express to Nashik from Borivali and caught the train at around 6.30. We reached Nashik at approximately 10.30, ate breakfast at the first restaurant that we could find and proceeded to take a local cab that charged us 1,400 for dropping us to Sula and then waiting for us for four hours and dropping us back to Nashik station. As soon as you get out of the station, there are an array of vehicles that are willing to take you wherever you want.

 

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We were excited as we entered the place and walked to the huge lane with welcoming signs. The vineyards on the left side, quirky decor, music playing in the background make for a lively environment and even though it was humid and hot, we were full of energy and were excited. We went to the gift shop from where one can buy their tickets for the wine tour. We were shown the machines, where the grapes are crushed. Then, we were taken in the tank hall, where the wine is stored in a huge tank, and we were explained the process of making wine. The wine barrels were the next thing that we saw. Then, came the much awaited wine-tasting session, which everyone thoroughly enjoyed. We were given four of the finest Sula wines and we learned how to drink wine with style and elegance.

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After all the knowledge that our minds that grasped, we were hungry and headed to Soma, the beautiful and cute restaurant at Sula. We had a delicious pasta and pizza. Later, we clicked a million pictures and went to another restaurant in Sula that has a beautiful view of the wineries and serves only snacks and wine. We had a fun conversation over wine and felt like very sophisticated and poised ladies.

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That was the end of our beautiful trip. Hoping this makes you want to go there as well.

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Ciao! Till my next trip.

Why you feel dead all the time?

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Feeling sleepy after you just wake up? After you eat? While you are commuting? While work? Basically all throughout the day? Many us have more than enough to eat and considering that the body takes energy from food shouldn’t we be more active and energetic?

I attended a workshop conducted by Ojas lifestyle and learned that we do not need the huge amounts of food we eat. We eat a lot of food because we find it tasty and our mind seeks pleasure. Our bodies get most of the energy from sleep. And we need to eat only for the nutrition, that is the minerals and victims and those we get from plants and fruits. Our body needs five elements from nature. Today most of us are feeding our bodies excess earth element through food. But one of the important elements is space and there needs to be space in our body and that can happen only when our tummies are not overloaded with food. The speakers also mentioned how an alive seed only grows, but when you cook food, the food is killed, so they recommend that we eat uncooked vegetables. There are a variety of recipes available online and there are a lot of ways you can make raw food tasty.  Your organs have to work extra when you eat extra and that makes you sleepy. That‘s why traditionally farmers would sleep after having food. Also, their lifestyle that had a lot of physical activity supported the cooked food that they had, but in today’s modern world there are some changes that need to happen. 

Many researchers recommend the raw diet. However, there are some precautions that you have to take while following this diet. Make sure you have green juice in the morning, which can be made from any green leafy vegetables, lemon juice, and ginger. The fibers of the juice have to be removed through a muslin cloth as it will be easy to digest the first thing in the morning and you will absorb the direct minerals and vitamins. Then after an hour you can have fruits and vegetables. For lunch, sprouts and vegetables will do. You can have carbohydrates at night, but eat more of the vegetable. It should be in the ratio of 20:80. You can have juices throughout the day. 

I just tried the diet for two days, and I am feeling so energized and light. I do not feel drowsy like I did most of the times before.

 

Mothers and Daughters

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Mother’s Day is around the corner and as I was searching for a gift that I could buy for my mother, I was thinking of the things that my mother has done for me over the years. She always ensured that I ate well, reached home safely and tried her best to motivate me to learn new things. Flashbacks of the fights that we had and keep having come to my mind and I remember how she never hesitated to correct me, even though she knew I would hate her for it. I feel blessed to have a mother who is so caring, loving, and supportive and I thank the almighty from the bottom of my heart for this.

There are times when my mother says illogical things and I want to bang my head against the wall because I cannot understand how people can have such ideas. When I was younger , she would stop me from going somewhere and I would get some angry and feel that she is not allowing me to grow and she is the biggest pain in my life. Sometimes she refuses to speak to me for days and I refuse to speak to her as well. If this happens with you and your mothers as well then I urge you to let the anger dissolve after some time. Even though your mother may have said hurtful things, the truth is that there could be no one in the world that loves you more than your mother and maybe she needs to learn how to better communicate her feelings and let go of her negativity, but like one of my best friends told me that our parents have been through tough situations and they do not want their children to go through the same, so the things that they say may feel negative, but they are just trying to protect you.

There are many people who feel that their mothers did not really love them, did not give them time, or always hurt them when they were kids. Some of them have to analyze whether it was true because sometimes we compared our mother’s to our friends mothers and wanted them to give us the time that some parents could afford to give their children when they were young. If you feel that they hurt you by some of their actions, delve into them and decide to forgive them. No one is perfect. Everyone is learning and your mother is growing with you. That was the only way she could behave then, so it is high time, you get over your childhood bruises and stop seeing your mother as the same women who hurt you ten years ago over a small issue.

There are some people; however, who genuinely have evil and rejecting mothers and who put them down. I pray that you all have strength and not brood over what you have done wrong. To you, all I can say is that forgive them, but do not maintain a relationship with them. There’s no need to keep in touch with such people, even if they are your parent.

Those of you who’s mother has passed away or who never had a mother, you can consider any lady who is kind to you, for example your friend’s mother to be your mother, after all relations are not only through blood.

Gift recommendations for my mom are welcome.

Living By Yourself: An experience I would encourage everyone to have.

I decided to move to a paying guest house for sometime so that I would get the experience of staying alone, save time, and become independent. Although it was a not a very pleasant experience, it did teach me a lot, which is why I would encourage everyone in their twenties to move out of their parents house and stay by themselves even if its for just a few months. While this is very common in the west, it is not very common in India and our parents will probably throw a fit, but explaining to them why it is important for your growth is important and I am sure if you make up your mind, they will be happy to let you grow.

Here are some things that I learnt from staying alone.

  1. Staying and dealing with people who you have never met before and who are very different from you. 

This is probably the toughest part and I was blessed with roommates who had brains that were the size of a pea. You will be very disappointed when your idea of  perfect roommates, like Rachel and Monica or Joey and Chandler from Friends, who you can chill with and who support you are shattered. People are different and most of the time your timings, schedule, way of thinking, hygiene habits do not match and that creates a lot of problems. People who you live with may create issues about you getting your friends over, have a very narrow perspective to life, like the girl that I lived with had. To quote her “people who drink alcohol and smoke up are not from good families and my mother already told me not to stay with a catholic girl”. But then you learn that people have different ways of thinking and you are no one to judge them. You let go and thank heavens that you are blessed enough not to have narrow minds like them.

2.  Handling Finances 

There is a lot of things that you have to take care of all by yourself now. Rent, light bills, gas bills, grocery, etc, etc and while this may seen overwhelming at first and you may question yourself as to why you moved out in the first place, but when you finally manage to do it all, you will be proud of yourself.

3. Feeling Grateful 

You will realize that your parents take care of many things for you and that you take most of the things for granted. You will be thankful that they worked hard to provide for you and gave you the best of whatever they could.

4. Learning

When we live at home, everything is done for us, so we do not bother learning even the most basic things. I learned to cook when I moved out and I am really happy about it because I finally learned this important survival skill. You also learn to keep your things safely, not spend a lot of time in the bathroom, and stand up for yourself.

Many of us youngsters think that it is impossible to do other things like cook, clean, and exercise with our job, but when you shift you can stay at a place near your house, save a lot of time and work on being a multi-tasker and having a balanced life. Wishing you all the luck, if you do decide to take the big step, I am sure you will slay.

5 spiritual books to change your life!

  1. The Way Of The Wizard – Deepak Chopra 

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This book that is written in the form of a dialogue between Arthur, the student, and Merlin, a wise man, really opens up the mind and helps you understand heavy spiritual concepts, like there is no good or bad, in very simple words and with examples.

2. The Power Of Now- Ekhart Tolle 

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Ekhart Tolle’s book has a heavy opening and can be difficult to understand at first, but the book has some beautiful concepts like Pain body, which helps us understand that every one has been through suffering and when their pain body is active they react in a negative way. Acceptance and Surrender is also one of the important lessons of this book.

3. You Can Heal Your Life – Louise Hay 

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This book helps us understand the deep connection between the mind and body and how the limiting beliefs, negativity and anger that we hold can be responsible for the problems that we face.

4.  Dying To Be Me – Anita Moorchandani 

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This book explains with a personal story the importance of self-love, living life without guilt and fear, and knowing that you have to relax in the now and things will be done for you.

5. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck – Mark Manson 

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There are so many things I learned from this book, but most importantly I learned that I am an entitled prick and you also most probably are one, so I highly recommend reading this book. I personally did not like the opening of the book, so if you also don’t like the opening like me, read a few pages and I am sure you are going to love it.

If you understand what is written in these books, I am sure you will automatically take steps toward changing your habits and dissolving the ego, a little by little, everyday. Sometimes it may require conscious effort on your part, and it may be difficult in the beginning, but you will thank yourself later.

Happy Reading and transforming!